Showing posts with label guest post. Show all posts
Showing posts with label guest post. Show all posts

Wednesday, November 25, 2009

Rituals

Over the hills and through the desert to grandparents' house we go ... Today's guest post by my ma, Linda, gives you a peek into how my children will spend Thanksgiving day. How do rituals work into your Turkey Day celebrations? Happy feasting, everyone!

Courtesy of unfoldedorigami.

The minivan pulls into the circular dirt driveway, stopping as a cloud of dust covers the car. Doors fly open and four eager grandchildren run to our front door, thrilled to begin their visit at Nana and Opa’s.

First they check out the chickens. Running to the backyard and opening the door to the hen house, they search for the prized egg. Over the years the number of chickens decreased until we now have one lonely hen. I think she anticipates their visits too so she can show off her hard work to exclamations of delight.

Then they move on to Bailey, our dog, who lives in a pen east of our front door and is always eager for a walk. With the purple leash in hand, the tug-of-war begins, all signs of control lost in the struggle.

Moving into the house, they pour over the children’s book shelves, searching for their favorite books, many of which their mother discovered when she was little. Recently, we packed away most of our books to do a home-improvement project, and when they came to visit they couldn’t find their favorite titles and felt concerned that I donated them to the thrift store. Not to worry! The books are now back on the shelves waiting for their next visit. These shabby books barely survived our six children and now our grandchildren are leaving their fingerprints on the well-worn pages.


Fur family. Courtesy of Linda Conlin.

Chaja has a collection of wooden dolls -- similar to paper dolls -- which she keeps in a metal tin in my office. She also cherishes a spiral basket made in Mexico which holds a couple families of little animals with tiny pants, shirts and dresses. Even though she doesn’t always play with them, she never forgets to check on them, making sure they are where they belong.


Max and Sam are eager to try out the games, which we house on a shelf in the hallway above the washer and dryer. They climb up on the machines and pull out a game of Battleship. They stage war on our high bed, towering above Ivan’s grabby little hands. For days after, I find tokens of their battle -- little white pegs hiding in various places throughout the house.


As time passes, they plea for their favorite adventure -- driving the Volkswagen. Sitting on Opa’s lap with hands clutching the steering wheel, Max careens about the alkali flat, leaving a plume of dust in his wake. Mario Andretti has nothing on this race car driver!


Sam and Opa on top of the world. Courtesy of Linda Conlin.


Once, when they had solo visits to our home, they got to climb the windmill tower with their Opa. Sitting side-by-side on top of the world, they had a bird’s-eye view of the valley below. It reminded me of my own kids -- challenging one another to climb the tower and sit on the platform as the earth continued spinning far below.


After we wash and put away the dinner dishes, daylight eases into dusk and they put on their pajamas. That’s when the search begins -- shoes, sweaters, hats, books, toys -- all must be tracked down and all must be packed up. After hugs and kisses goodbye, they line up and climb back into their van, tired from a day of playing and exploring. The van pulls away and we sink into the couch, breathing in the solace of a home, quiet once again, and the sweet memories of a day with our grandchildren.


Linda Conlin blogs at The Nevada Piecemaker and is a contributor to The Quilting Bees and River Wranglers.

Wednesday, November 18, 2009

Unmasked

When I learned I would be breastfeeding a fourth (and final) child, I wanted just one shirt emblazoned with these words: I make milk. What's your superpower? Today's guest post by my wonderful friend Kyndale is a one-two punch for multitasking moms. Come on, ladies, let me hear you roar!


Courtesy of bbaltimore.

I am a superhero and I have super powers.

I can jump over and ignore piles of laundry in a single bound. WHOOSH!! I can heal real and imaginary wounds with just a kiss and a hug. ZAP!! I can whip up a meal plan and grocery list in mere seconds. POW!! I can read the same book 100 times in a row without getting dry throat. BOOM!!

Flash back 11 years ago, before kids. I was just a mortal. A pupa of a human being waiting to undergo my metamorphosis. How can anyone know what their life will become after children? It's a door that cannot be opened before it appears.

Eleven years has passed so quickly, as if I've been in a time warp. I have given birth to three children, breastfed for more than 9 years, and cleaned up more spilled _______ than humanly possible. I can live for days, weeks, months and years without proper sleep and still operate a toaster oven or drive a car while maintaining my lane. It even amazes my superhero self.

I am dumbfounded and bewildered that the love for my children is boundless even in the face of unthinkable sassiness, rambunctiousness and mischievous behavior. I attribute my ability to get past these and other daily doings to my super powers. How can it be explained otherwise?

I have accepted my super powers as a gift -- privilege -- and choose to live in obscurity, blending in to society under the disguise of stay-at-home mom. At times, someone will slip kryptonite into my smoothie. That's when self-doubt creeps in and my super powers fade. I have learned to breathe again, pick myself up and put my uni-tard back on.

Just the other day, I was laying in bed watching my littlest sleep, breathing in his sweet and tangy boy smell (with my super smelling powers of course), a delightful smell that only I can appreciate. As he woke , he smiled and said, “I love you Mommy.” Seriously, that was the first thing that came out of his little lips! It's moments like these that my purpose is clear.

Yes, I am a superhero!

About the writer: Kyndale aka Supermom is a stay-at-home mom of three super kids. She enjoys knitting, sewing, gardening, and crafts. She writes about her adventures as a Supermom on her blog, Earthy Crunchy. She lives in Sparks, Nevada.

Wednesday, November 11, 2009

A bus exchange

The Slow-Cooked Sentence kicks off this month's group of guest posts with one from my sister Kyna, who writes about geting a second shot at vanquishing a childhood ghost that's returned to haunt her small son. Enjoy!

"illusion" courtesy of Lauren Marek.

The woman sitting across from us on the bus is old, so when she leans forward and shouts, "Is that your boy?" I raise my voice to answer, too. "Yes." I nod and smile.

"Well, he sure is a SKINNY one!"

My smile quickly turns to a grimace and I pull my son into my lap, looking to see if he's following this conversation.

"He's got the BONIEST little KNEES..."

I look at her for a long moment and say nothing. She leans forward and points a finger at his legs.

"I said, he's got the BONIEST -"

"You know, he can understand you," I interrupt.

My face feels hot. It seems the whole bus is listening (and no wonder, this is exactly the kind of exchange I love to watch).

"WHAT?" she shouts.

I know she's just looking to have a conversation, but my irritation grows. I'm thinking of all the hurtful things people said to me growing up. Toothpick. Bird legs. Stick girl. How much worse will it be for my son, since he's a boy?

"You are being very rude."

"Oh! Well..."

She rearranges her belongings and purses her lips. Thankfully the next stop is mine. Once we're on the sidewalk Dagan asks, "Who's that lady?"

"I don't know. I just don't think she was being very nice."

"Why?" Dagan asks.

I stop and look at him. He's watching me carefully. If he's upset, it's only because I am.

"What did that lady say, Dagan?"

He stretches his arms to the sky.

"She said I have looooong legs."

We laugh a little and set off down the street.

About the writer: Kyna Conlin Moser works at Literacy Source, a nonprofit center in Seattle. She's supporting her family while her husband attends Bastyr University to become a naturopathic doctor. She's pregnant with their second child. She blogs at Our Seattle and Blue Sky Sketches.
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